"Can I be honest with you?" Don't you love when people say this? What do they mean? I want to say,"Were you lying to me this whole time up to now?" The question is, was what they were saying the whole time before this a lie or just parts of it? What kind of person has to say, "Let me be honest with you." I would hope that you've been being honest this whole time. At this point I don't know what to believe when this person talks to me. Should I only believe them when they ask my permission to tell me the truth? At this point I have to assume they are lying unless they ask me again if they can be honest. Well, there are variables of this question such as the statement, "Let me be honest." or the in your face, "Honestly".
And what in the world has this society turned in to when you need permission to be honest? Are we nothing but a bunch of liers in this country? And here's another great question, what if you're in court under oath? If you ask that question the judge should be able to throw you in jail for purgary automatically. Of course people use this all the time not realizing what they are really saying. That being said, 98% of the people in the world are liers (probabally more than that but I'm excluding my mother and people like her). One studied showed that 91% of people said they lied on a regular basis, the other 9% probabally lied on the study!
Want a sure sign that a person is lying to you? Here's one. "You calling me a lyer?" If someone ever says that to you just say, "No, but you just admitted it." I have never heard anyone say this that wasn't lying. Another way to tell if a person is lying is in their tone and how they say words like didn't, couldn't and wouldn't. If they put heavy emphasis on these words chances are they are lying. If they say the full words like DID NOT, COULD NOT or WOULD NOT you can guarantee they are lying. As the famous Bill Clinton has proven, "I DID NOT have sexually relations with that woman!" If you really want to get more tips on how to catch people lying watch reruns of the TV series Lie To Me or there are a lot of great books out there.
Anyway, from now on, before the words ever come out of your mouth, "Can I be honest", catch yourself and just skip it! We got enough to deal with besides worrying about whether you've been telling us the whole truth up till now.
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